We all want to be loved, touched, serenaded and adored. Our relationships may reflect this; our partners may fulfil our desires. But sometimes they forget how special we are or go way off the track we enjoy sharing with them.
Can you talk to your other half about what you want? What you need from them? This can be even more difficult if the shortcoming is in the area of intimacy.
Just imagine that you and your partner need to cook a meal together and you have no words for the ingredients for the meal, no terms for pots and pans, spices etc. Just imagine how difficult that would be. A lot of my clients struggle to express themselves, find it difficult to say what feels good for them and what they want more or less of in their relationship, especially in their sexual relationship.
Can you talk to your other half about what you want?
What you need from them?
This can be even more difficult if the shortcoming is in the area of intimacy.
Some ask me what is normal? What do men / women like or want?
I see no relevance what the average woman or man desires in any situation, as what we need to find out is the specifics of what that special person you are with (or want to be with) want. And you should tell them what you want, as they are not mind readers (usually). This is where I can help.
As a sex therapist I work with people’s intimacy and sexuality concerns and help them to develop skills to address sexual and relationship issues and ways to maintain healthy sexuality. Some of these are issues around communication, low or changed libido, erectile issues, porn use, sexual orientation etc.
I show my clients how our ideas about sex – and ourselves – are more important than a perfect body or exotic techniques. I aim to improve people’s intimacy in their relationship to feel safe, understood and fulfilled.
If you and your partner need someone to talk to about intimacy or sexuality, contact Edit.